Mom Update…

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For those of you who may be wondering…

10 days ago we all thought my mom was dying. ‘We all’ included her physician, the staff at her assisted living center, the hospice staff who came later, and me – the not-medically-trained quilter.

My mom is much beloved at her assisted living center and they did everything they could to help and that included finding round-the-clock sitters and getting hospice set up on a Sunday. It was an amazing mobilization of help. I was mentally making funeral plans.

During those 2 days, we all said ‘you know, she could get better’ but none of us really thought she would. And then, she did! I showed up early Monday morning thinking mom would still be practically comatose and there she was, eating breakfast in the dining hall!

She’s gotten steadily better over the past week and is now mostly back to where she was ‘before’. Let me just say that I hope I inherited her healing genes :-).

No one knows how long this will last, but isn’t that true for all of us?

Every day is a gift. Hold that thought in your heart, as much as you can.

Enjoy today with a smile on your face, a song in your heart, and sewing in hand :-).

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This photo is one I took for my photo critique class with Ricky Tims. 

41 thoughts on “Mom Update…”

  2. What really good news Becky! Last Monday I installed my near 99 year old Dad Rusty in an aged care facility. His choice. Happy and content he is surrounded by goodwill and medical help if needed. The family and I could not be happier with this result.

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  3. Life is precious. Celebrate her life with friends and family so she can personally enjoy their love.
    Sadly, My Mom passed before I could do this.

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  12. Prayers for you and your family. My mom is now in full-time nursing home care. A few months ago, we had a real scare where we would watch her think she was eating and drinking, but she wasn’t. Turned out it was meds related. We are grateful for every day.

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  14. That is fantastic news! My dear Aunt had the same wonderful care and was able to be with us until 99 yrs old! I am so happy for you, Sue Kersey

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  15. I’m so glad for all of you. It’s such a hard thing but we all have to go through it. I love your positive attitude. We forget and start taking things for granted! Your lucky to have her all these years. I just preplanned my arrangements, it was a relief not to leave it for loved ones. We did that for my mother and 11 years later was less stressful.

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  16. Wonderful news. Spend as much time with her as you can. Speaking from experience. Not a day goes by that I don’t think about my mom and dad and still missing them after 16 years.

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  17. That’s wonderful Becky! My mom is 94 years old & amazingly healthy. She doesn’t go to a doctor at all now, although her insurance company (or Medicare) did send someone out to her house to check her blood pressure a year or so ago. My husband & I were in Hawaii at the time & she didn’t mention it until we got back & none of us were sure what it was all about, so I had to call her insurance to check into it (we feared identity theft), but it was all OK.
    I often think, as my friend’s mother of the same age is having strokes & other issues, that maybe not going to doctors & not taking any medications, is serving her well at this point. I think often that the side effects of medications are worse than the potential health problems the medications are supposed to take care of!

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  19. I’m glad for your mom, all family and you. We went through similar situations with my mom (who I loved so dearly) and never knew what would await us that day. I realize that’s nothing unusual, but somehow it’s different when it’s your own mom. Please pat her, kiss her and hug her all you can. However it sounds like you have that all figured out. Good for me. She is fortunate to have you.

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  25. I am so happy that your mother is better! It does make you appreciate her and everything around you. I have been through this on two different occasions, once with my mother and recently with my daughters father-in-law whom I cared for. I can’t tell you how many times we went through this with both of them. It’s quite the roller coaster! As you probably know things don’t happen in our time. Blessings on your family and especially you. It’s always hardest on the daughter.

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  26. I’m also going to say God bless you and your family – especially mom. Every day really is a blessing. In 2010 my mom was diagnosed with interstitial pulmonary fibrosis and the doc said 6 months, maybe 12, at the very best 18. Well, she was living on her own after that diagnosis for close to three years. Sadly in 2013 we placed her in assisted living – but she had to be hospitalized 3 times in 2 months so they said she needed more care – and she went to a nursing home. That was in spring. Happily – mostly – for us she was at my daughter’s wedding in Sept., with all of us at my sister’s home for both Thanksgiving and Christmas – and died Feb 8th, 2014. . Mom did a lot of faking us out – we never thought she’d make it to the wedding. Then she’d be fine for a while. It was at least 6 to 8 months of thinking she was close to the end and then her waking up one day and being fine. I was with her when she passed and it was very peaceful. Still miss her! So I know what you’re saying – spend as much time as you can with her, and enjoy every day because we never know which day will be our last!

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  29. Awwwwww. That’s wonderful news. I’ve been in your situation and totally understand what you’ve been through. Many prayers for you, your family Ana all who care for her. Love from Arkansas 👍🏻🙏🏼💗

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  35. What a blessing! I was in that exact situation more than once. Each added day felt like a gift from God. My mom was my best friend. I’m sure you cherish all the extra days you have. I know I did! Sorry for the emotional roller coaster you are on though. Big hugs.

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  37. Becky, I’m happy to hear your Mom pulled through this latest issue. It just wasn’t her time yet. I’ve been dealing with my 94 year old Mom’s issues this year (5 hospital stays, 4 surgeries) and recently moved her permanently in to a nursing home where she is getting fantastic care. I know the emotional roller coaster you are going through. We do have to take one day at a time and take each day we have left with our Mom as a blessing. Quilting and friends have helped me through the tough times. Stay strong and remember to take care of yourself too.

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  39. Becky, I lived this life for four years with three parents. It was a whirlwind of doctors, hospitals, hospice, etc. I know what a toll it takes on one even as you thank God for the gift of your parent(s). Please work very hard to find space to take care of yourself in this journey. You will stay in my prayers.

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  40. Bless her heart! More days to enjoy together. I am happy for you all. Love the sunflower too. I have a lot of beautiful ones this year. So enjoy your patterns and take on applique. Best Wishes to you all. Love Rosalie

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